"Our emotions were all originally meant for good. In other words, God has a will for your emotions. Anger was meant to fight injustice and oppression. The sex drive was meant for the singular committed passion of a spouse. Jealousy was meant for the protection of our loved ones, to be jealous for their growth and maturity. It’s only when emotions are inordinately exaggerated that they become destructive.
So if you must be jealous, then be jealous for your friend and not of them. It’s not easy to do this. Any emotion is capable of turning ugly. But emotions are also capable of motivating the most beautiful of actions when they’re guided by the divine hand of God. They’re not the main reason we do anything, but as the fuel: they work great."
"I am concerned that we are placing yokes on other people that are not of Jesus Christ. I am concerned that we are slamming the door of the Kingdom in people’s faces and tying up heavy burdens and placing them on their backs. I am concerned we are straining gnats and swallowing camels. I am concerned that we are kicking out the very people Jesus welcomed in—the poor, the marginalized, the misfits, the heartbroken, the “rejects,” the “sinners,” the troublemakers, the merciful, the peacemakers. And I am concerned that the Church is indeed conforming to the world—every time it preaches violence as a way to achieve justice, every time it glorifies celebrity and success, every time it reduces womanhood to subordination and manhood to power, every time it justifies cruelty or unkindness in the name of proving a point."
"the one thing, when interviewed, that divorced couples said about relationships is that you need to listen. the person you love is always saying something, and most times we only choose to listen when we want to. "